The Nostalgia Trap

Jan. 5th, 2026 08:30 pm
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The Nostalgia Trap

I am part of the generation that spent most of their childhood in the analog world, and then gradually turned digital as they came into young adulthood. We are often referred to as “digital immigrants”, contrasting us with the “digital natives” born somewhere between a decade and two later. But a more appropriate term would be the “abyss generation”, because somewhere deep down we are stuck in limbo, in the abyss between fully analog and fully digital, of two worlds, yet fully belonging to neither.

Growing up, we used a lot of paper. A lot of color pencils and crayons. Our teachers put us through endless drills in cursive handwriting. A neat, legible, and beautiful hand was something to be strived for, something that was prized, and rewarded and shown off.
We had long afternoons to ourselves. We had a loyal band of neighborhood friends. We would have four hour long play sessions. Sometimes, we would listen to entire albums from beginning to end–while doing nothing else. Do you even remember the last time you just listened to music, without it being a soundtrack to some other activity you were doing?

Sometimes, we ache to go back to that time. That time seemed simpler and purer. So much so that we are willing to mutilate memories from our immediate past with sepia and Polaroid filters. Nostalgia is painful, but it is also sweet and powerful.

But here is the thing: nostalgia is a trap. It is not that those times were simpler and purer. We were simpler and purer.

Nostalgia is easy to fall into. And the older you get, the easier it gets. The universe of things you can look back on only increases with time. And it seems so much more pleasant than looking forward, where you only see hopes and dreams and fears and probabilities. It takes conscious effort to not go down that slope, to instead look to the future, and actually create it. And it takes even more effort, and more courage, to objectively compare the past to the present, and face the fact that, yes, indeed, most things are better, and are more likely than not to continue getting better.

Over the last year, I have found myself writing by hand again. Sometimes, it is page after page of straight prose. Sometimes it is phrases and bullet points and underlines and bubbles. Sometimes it is just random senseless doodling. And the reason I have come back to that archaic activity is my LiveScribe pen. I no longer have to worry about losing all that. Something that is naturally analog and free-form is seamlessly brought into the digital world.

We seem to be enveloped by the literature of despair and frustration. Complaints and pessimism always seem to be more profound and erudite when placed next to cheerful optimism. Reject that.

Look forward. Make the future.
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After a full week without water in the kitchen, the plumber cameth on half an hour's notice from the property manager and was horrified to hear about it, but he was swift and competent and we have a new and working faucet, which was all the problem turned out to be. Hestia made herself invisible in the bedroom throughout the proceedings. I washed a fork without first boiling water and it felt like a big deal.

I just finished reading David Hare's A Map of the World (1983), whose device of examining an interpersonal-political knot through the successive filters of the roman à clef, the screen version, and the memories of the participants reminded me obviously of similar exercises in metafiction and retrospect by Tom Stoppard and Michael Frayn, double-cast for an effect at the end approaching timeslip such as works almost strictly on stage. I did not expect to find some fragments preserved in an episode of The South Bank Show, but there were some of the scenes with Roshan Seth, John Matshikiza, Bill Nighy, Diana Quick. I wish I thought it meant there were a complete broadcast I could watch, but I'm not even finding it got the BBC Radio 3 treatment. More immediately, it reminded me of how many of the stories I read early were about stories, their propagation and mutation, their conventions, their shifting distances from the facts. "And, in time, only the bards knew the truth of it."

The problem with the denaturing of language is that when I say to [personal profile] spatch that the political situation is insane, I don't mean it's a little far-fetched, I mean it is driven by wants and processes that are not rational and it is exhausting to be trapped inside someone else's illness.

Snowflake 3

Jan. 5th, 2026 07:18 pm
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Snowflake Challenge: A warmly light quaint street of shops at night with heavy snow falling.

Write a love letter to fandom. It might be to fandom in general, to a particular fandom, favourite character, anything at all.

Post your answer to today’s challenge in your own space and leave a comment in this post saying you did it.


Once upon a time, one of the friends who was teaching me How To Person told me that my problem wasn't so much that people didn't like me, it was more that I didn't like people. I was constantly on the defensive and went into social situations expecting to get so little value out of the exchange that I was unconsciously treating people like their existence was a chore. He kinda had a point. It was not a great way to make friends when everyone around me felt judged.

I was still getting over that but starting to get used to trying to like people when I found fandom back in 2003-2004, and found my way over to [personal profile] copperbadge's comment section. It was the sudden manic insistence of my nervous system that I LOVE EVERYONE IN THIS BAR - just an overwhelming tide of positive feelings that I couldn't even process them all. I was still hella awkward as a human, but managed to make some neurodivergent friends anyway, some of whom I still talk to more than two decades later. And that insistence by my nervous system that These Are My People the feelings of I Belong Here and These People Are Like Me was so antithetical to every way that I had ever felt about groups of people that it wound up changing core parts of my personality, my identity.

I am me, because of y'all. You did this to me and I honestly couldn't be fucking happier about it.

[profile] dyingfire and [personal profile] maeritrae and [personal profile] elucreh - thank you so much for welcoming me aboard.

And all of fandom: thank you for existing.

Does anybody have old magazines?

Jan. 8th, 2026 07:23 pm
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I’ll pay shipping costs. They just have to be picture heavy.

Hm. Maybe I should see if a local dentist or doctor was planning to weed soon….

Links!

Jan. 5th, 2026 06:31 pm
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Free sewing pattern for a chest binder, for those of y'all who may need such.

The Barometric Pressure Effects on Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) and Dysautonomia

Scientists find hidden antibiotic 100x stronger against deadly superbugs

Autistic joy? Is a thing. But also autistic joylessness through constant overwhelm is ALSO a thing. Apparently lots of autists don't experience joy in the same ways or to the same extents as others? I gets moments of joy, but they last maybe 15 seconds worth of slightly more intense happiness? Which according to some folks I know is not what joy is for them, or at least not ALL of what it is.

Sick Woman Theory - PDF of a short philosophical and political treatise about who gets seen enough to count as "political".

Washingtonians during a flood emergency Sound ON.

Read more... )
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Posted by Nur Ibrahim

In early January 2026, the U.S. captured Venezuelan President Nicolás Maduro and his wife and transported them to New York.
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Posted by Jordan Liles

According to users' social media posts, Newsmax reported about the House minority leader's alleged attempt to reach the Venezuelan president.

Monday Word: Portmanteau

Jan. 5th, 2026 05:23 pm
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portmanteau [pawrt-man-toh]

noun

1. a word or part of a word made by combining the spellings and meanings of two or more other words or word parts

2. a large suitcase

examples
1. Brody is the reason for the Chrismukkah season (well, at least the use of the portmanteau). Sophie Dodd, PEOPLE, 21 Dec. 2025.
2. There was no question of the presence or absence of his portmanteau tonight. Number 13, MR James.

origin
Middle French portemanteau, from porter to carry + manteau mantle, from Latin mantellum

portmanteau

Cold, continued

Jan. 5th, 2026 05:52 pm
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Woke up to a bitterly cold morning, fully expecting the usual battle with an icy windshield. But thanks to the new car heater we installed, the car was already warm and completely defrosted before I even stepped outside. No scraping, no waiting—just a smooth, cozy start to the day. Feeling genuinely grateful for that little upgrade that made a big difference.

I also didn’t expect

Jan. 7th, 2026 04:34 pm
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Such an open and bald admission that this is about the oil.

Dear Author Letter (CandyHeartsEx)

Jan. 5th, 2026 03:42 pm
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I signed up for [personal profile] candyheartsex and here is my Dear Author Letter on my dreamwidth that has become a dear author letter repository.

Weird that I haven't done one since 2023? I used to do several a year.

Writing one of these was kind of nice. It made me feel... I dunno. It felt like a way show both that I am interesting and have interests without the pressure to perform all by myself or the idea that no one cares what I'm talking about. Feels good.

I'm back to Japan from Canada.

I'd already taken Monday off, knowing I'd need it to sleep off the travel, but since Tuesday is really just a workday and we have no "required" stuff until Wednesday, I'm taking Tuesday off, too.

Hopefully, I will be able to go to sleep at a reasonable hour on my Tuesday night.

I've been listening to a lot of Sabrina Carpenter the last few days.

I still feel like there's a Taylor Swift-shaped hole in my music interests even though I still like 85% of her discography. I just feel like I am conscientiously objecting to her right now. It's weird.

I finished Heated Rivalry, and I did not expect to care this much.

hey there

Jan. 5th, 2026 05:25 pm
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i want to start using this site a bit more, so why not.
name: aatrox
age: early 20s
country: im in latin america.
subscription/access policy: i dont plan on making anything friends/access only, not right now anyway. so sub if you think reading my stuff would be cool. i dont plan on posting any NSFW, and id appreciate if you didnt give me access if you post NSFW frequently.

main fandoms: switches a lot, but currently its sega dreamcast games (especially sonic & phantasy star), pokemon, league of legends, and madoka magica.
other fandoms: mario & dk, undertale, 07th expansion, danganronpa, touhou, ace attorney, fighting games, homicipher, houseki no kuni. i have more interests on my sticky post, but its a bit outdated.
fannish interests: art, selfshipping, meta & analysis. also into internet archeology, which naturally bleeds over to fandom. i dont read fanfics.
ships: hard time naming any that would match with someone else nowadays, because all i like is crackships. its easier to name ships i dislike than like.

i like to post about: ive been mostly posting reviews of games ive played recently, but like i said i might start posting more general stuff. i dont currently plan on posting anything thats too outside fannish interests, so dont worry if you dont want to see unrelated rambles.
journal info: i make lenghty posts that ramble a lot and i dont typically cut them. SORRY.
other info: i dont plan on getting into this kind of discourse here, but right off the bat, if youre into ships that are between adult and children, or incest, or indulge in erotic content that involves characters who are children, dont interact with me please. for less serious topics, we might not get super along if youre more into works that are live action/use real actors, its just not stuff im into. finally im a selfshipper and its a big part of my online identity; feel free to ask for details if youre also into that, but dont involve me in discourse.
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Posted by Anna Rascouët-Paz

Donald Trump's first administration offered a $15 million reward for any information on Maduro in 2020. Biden's State Department increased it.

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